This book goes deeper than the medical gaslighting
you've heard about.
Most conversations about medical gaslighting stop at the dismissal.
That part is real. But it's only one side of the room.
It Takes Two says the quiet part out loud: gaslighting is sustained from both sides of the exam table.
From a system built for speed, closure, and efficiency. And from patients who learned, over years of being trained, to shrink their stories before they ever said them out loud.
It's not about blaming patients. It's not about attacking medicine.
It's about finally understanding why so many smart, capable people keep disappearing inside the process of getting care.
Buy the book. Unlock the toolkit.
Every reader gets access to the companion resources designed to turn what's in the book into what you do at your next appointment.
Bonus 01
The First Look Experience
Early access to select chapters from each section of the book.
Bonus 02
The Behind-the-Scenes Story
This is something Dr. E has never shared publicly. Before the podcast, before the practice, before the book, there was a story about her wife Gina that rewrote how Dr. E practices medicine.
Bonus 03
It’s Not In Your Head (E-Version)
The digital edition of Dr. E's first book, free with your order.
Bonus 04
The Discerning Patient's Guide to the Exam Room
A one-page tool to bring to your next appointment. It walks you through articulating your main concern, spotting the patterns in your symptoms, knowing what your provider is likely looking for, asking the questions that get heard, and organizing the dates and details that actually matter.
Pre-order now and unlock exclusive bonuses
When you pre-order your copy, you’ll receive access to a curated set of bonus resources designed to help you go deeper, reflect more clearly, and start applying the ideas behind the book in real life.
Bonus 01
The First Look Experience
Get early access to select chapters from each section of the book
Bonus 02
The Behind-the-Scenes Story
Exclusive, never-before-seen access to the story behind the book.
Bonus 03
The Digital Book Experience
“It’s Not In Your Head” (E-Version)
Additional insight created to support readers beyond the book.
Bonus 04
The Discerning Patient Exam Room
Guide
A practical, easy-to-use guide to help you prepare for your next appointment with clarity and confidence.
Three steps. Five minutes.
STEP 1
Buy the book from your favorite retailer.
STEP 2
Come back to this page and drop in your order number.
STEP 3
Check your inbox. Your bonuses are on the way.
If you've ever left an appointment feeling dismissed, this book was written for you.
You've left that appointment before. Something felt off. The prescription didn't match the problem.
You spent the drive home replaying the conversation, wondering if you said the wrong thing.
You've started shrinking your symptoms before you say them out loud. Smaller. Safer. Easier to ignore.
You've wondered if you're overreacting. Even when you know something is off.
You're done choosing between the system that doesn't believe you and the internet that will believe anything.
Why Dr. E wrote this book.
Dr. Efrat LaMandre, PhD, is a nurse practitioner who spent the first half of her career inside the system she now writes about, until her own wife became the patient nobody could help.
What she learned in that exam room rewrote how she practices and started a conversation that has reached millions of people through her clinic, her podcast, and her work online.
She's the founder of EG Healthcare, a nurse practitioner-led primary care organization in New York, and the host of The Medical Disruptor podcast.
She doesn't take sides between conventional medicine and what comes after it. She thinks both have something to offer, and most patients are exhausted from trying to figure out who to trust.
She lives with her wife, is the mother of three adult-ish children, and shares her home with a rotating cast of rescued cats.
This book is the field guide she wishes every patient had walked into her office holding.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
When did It Takes Two release?
June 1, 2027, wherever books are sold. Order now and your copy ships within a few days for single orders; bulk orders take a couple of weeks.
How do I get my bonuses?
Digital bonuses land in your inbox as soon as you submit your order number. A few bonuses arrive closer to the event date. You'll get a confirmation email with everything you're entitled to.
Can I get these bonuses anywhere else?
No. They live on this page, for people who buy from this page.
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